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Still trying to decide if I want a tattoo or not.

For reference, the tattoo being considered is the Agent Carter quote "I know my value" across my wrist, preferably in a typewriter style font.

1. Awesome fandom reference that also works for my real life.
2. When I'm having days where I let others judgements of me drag me down I can look at it and remember that I DO know my value and it DOESN'T really matter what anyone else thinks.

1. Placement would put it over a scar (flapjack related but in the stereotypical self-harm position) which might be too melodramatic?
2. Worried about ability to cover it if I regret it/want to interview for a job etc.
3. Worried about regretting it in general. I can be very faddy.

So...yeah. I don't even know. I don't really want it anywhere else, which would solve this. I want it visible, there's not much point to me of doing it if I'm not going to show it (yet one of my worries is showing it. I know). The other place, I guess, would be the top of my arm but that's not my favourite part of my body (I am overweight, my upper arms are quite big so I don't really like to show them and the design would have to be bigger).

But then part of my wants to just go for it. Thinks that the value of having it there will outweigh the anxiety of it. I know plenty of professional people with tattoos and I can always cover it with a cardigan or bracelets or a watch. And it's fandom related but broad enough that really it's not becasue of fandom I want to get it, it's becasue it means something to me outside of that. I spent so many years trying to define myself by how other people see me - 10000% done with that now. I know my value, even with a tattoo. Even with funny hair. Even if you think I'm not living up to my potential.

But anxiety.

I keep talking myself out of it and into it and out of it again. I know I really want it because, if I didn't, I'd have taken the idea off the table entirely by now. So I don't know if this is just general pre-big-decision anxiety of if it's something else.

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Date: 2015-09-09 09:32 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] scribblemoose
Normally I'm all about 'feel the fear and do it anyway', but this is different. If you have any doubts whatsoever, don't do it. Tattoos are for life. I've met too many people with regrets over fandom-related tattoos. My advice would be give it another six months and then see how you feel. Meanwhile try putting a temporary tattoo in the same place,see how you feel about it when it's there.

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Date: 2015-09-09 03:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I really like how your idea for the tattoo is both fandom and not. I mean, it's one of the reasons why I settled for my design. Yes, it's a deathly hallows sign and all potterheads recognize, but most muggles don't and it's brilliant. You also have the plus of it being a really good reminder for you! :)

I'm not going to try to talk you into getting a tattoo, if you're not sure, I think it's something you have to be sure about. I mean, I always knew I wanted to get tattoos, but it took me years and years to settle on what I want first. And then change that into a different tattoo and still just sit on the idea for few months (would probably be longer if not for my friend). I've had to be absolute sure this is what I want and that's where I want it. (And yet even driving to get it, I was wondering if I shouldn't switch which hand I want it on XD)

As for the scar, lots of people choose to have tattoos to cover up their scars. I don't think it would be overly melodramatic, though obviously you need to decide that on your own. It'd suck if you started hating it, because you'd think it looks wrong or sends the wrong message.

So, basically I think if you're not sure maybe you should wait? Then again, if you're constantly thinking about it, then maybe you're just anxious, but you should get one. ;D (I'm horrible at giving advice. XD) I know that, when I wanted to make sure if I wanted that design in this place I drew it on my skin and spent a day/few hours with it a few times. It helped actually, because a) I switched from my first idea of getting it on my wrist, b) when the tattoo artist talked to me about where exactly to put the design/how will it look, when I turn my hand, etc - I was all ready, because I already checked. Maybe something like that could help you out? :)

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Date: 2015-09-09 08:08 pm (UTC)
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A friend on Dreamwidth suggested waiting for 6 months and seeing if I still want it and I think I'm going to go with that. After all, if I want it them 6 months won't make that much difference. And if it is faddy then I'll have moved on.

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Date: 2015-09-10 06:04 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Seems like a good idea You have timetable to work with, but also you're able to put it off. The first tattoo I've decided on - and the one I'm still going to do later, because it was too complicated for my first time - I told myself to wait a year before being sure of it. And sure enough, when I was sure ofit after a year, I'm still sure of it and that I'm getting it one day, when I have enough cash to spend. ;)

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Date: 2015-09-10 07:12 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] yalumesse
A good trick I've found for these sorts of thing is to pick a date (for me, usually six months ahead) and decide that, if I still want it by then, I'll get it, because clearly I want it enough. I think, if you have ways to cover it in case you need to, that's not reason enough to stop you. And the time delay usually helps me get over nerves. Maybe that would work for you?

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Date: 2015-09-20 10:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I really like that idea! I understand your worry about having to cover it for a job though.


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